Let your yes be yes and no be no Print E-mail
Tuesday, 18 April 2017
By Chaplain (Maj.) Felix Kumai
Special to GUIDON

Two boys are sent on a mission by their father. The first says “yes,” but does not go. The second says “no,” but later changed his mind and went. Which son obeyed the father?

The second is said to be the one who did the father’s will. (Matthew 21: 29-31). The truth is neither are ideal sons.

The ideal son is the one who says ‘yes’ and follows through. The lesson learned — let us be honest with ourselves and say what we mean without nuance or equivocation. We don’t want to be that parent, in this extreme example, who allows their child to go to a ball game and when he returns home, he is grounded for going out, simply because you changed yes to no.

Why is it tough to simply say yes or no?

Maybe we don’t want to follow through or we want to delay a difficult decision. We could be leaning toward deceit about our real motives.

Whatever be the case, God wants our words to be our bond. Revelation 3:15-16 calls us to be hot or cold; no neutrality. No standing on the fence; no ambiguity with our words or actions. “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! But because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

Paul, in 2 Corinthians 1:17, wrote about how people in the world of darkness speak in the same breath…both “yes, yes” and “no, no.”

Such fluctuations and twisting of words create inconsistency and confusion and ruin relationships.  Second Corinthians 1:20 is the response of people of faith who mean what they say and follow through with exemplary lifestyle.

Let us start today with “yes” and “no” in daily conversations and answering requests from others. The Lord is not the author of confusion, I Cor 14:33. God’s word is not confusing, it has a clear message, and it is purposeful, meaningful and consistent.

James 5:12 “…let your yes be yes and your no be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.”

 Sending mixed messages is not the way to go in relationships. Let us learn to be short, simple and sweet.

(Editor’s note: Kumai is the 1st Engineer Brigade chaplain.)
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