By Chaplain (Capt.) Hyuntae Kim
As we will soon begin to feel the cooler temperatures of autumn, we will suddenly realize that we only have a couple of months left in 2018.
It will be Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve will finish up the calendar for this year.
With this change of season and the upcoming holidays, we also turn our thoughts to time with family. But before we look too far forward, we must ask, what did you do with your family in the last 10 months?
Life is busy; there are a lot of things to do. Sometimes those duties and responsibilities can overwhelm us, and often our families are left to sit on the sidelines. We can get so busy that we will even forget to express our love and appreciation to our families. Here’s a couple of tips on how to share your love with your family:
As you know, communication is the key. So often, we are good at speaking but not too keen on listening. Love your spouse and kids by giving them your ear and time. Put down that phone, turn off that TV, set down that game controller. Try to listen to their voice and understand what may be coming from their hearts. They have many things for you, and will say them to you if you take time to listen to their story. So make yourself available and actively “listen.”
Second, we like to have things done our way and get edgy when they don’t. Accept that it is okay not to have things “your way.”
Families are a team, you have to work together as a team, and learning to see the other’s point of view can be priceless. We do this by putting our wants aside and considering the thoughts of others.
When you talk about holiday plans, make sure it is what is best for your family, “not just for you.”
We tend to make relationships difficult without even knowing it. We can enjoy what’s left of the year with our loved ones by practicing just the two skills above.
Practice makes perfect.
(Editor’s note: Kim is the chaplain for the 35th Engineer Battalion, 1st Engineer Brigade.)